Understanding Love, Part 6/7J

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To Love is Means to Lets Go

-Encouragement Factor-

Grief is real for people who lost their love one, especially through a sudden death. To let go this memory is not an easy task and it cannot be smothered by mere academic explanation. This heartfelt adversity is a real experience and thus a real solution is needed.

Pain and suffering is unavoidable experience for all. However, a caring friend may play a pivotal role encourage them in their misery ----Our presence and support normally will speak louder than your solution in encouraging them---. Although an internal grief can be soften through external encouragement (through a consistent presence of friend), their courage still needs to be braced internally. This will happen if we are able to see the providence of God.

Enablement to perceive "providence of God" will help us see a purpose in our suffering. Our enablement to see this will give us hope and strength in the wave of adversity. We will be able to face the adversity easier compared to the one who don’t.

Let us see an example to understand this. Just imagine that you are watching your favourite team’s foot ball match. It happened that in the first 5 minutes a goal is made by the rival team. And another goal is made in the next 2 minutes. As a football fan, you might be crushed beyond measure. In the next 20 minutes, the situation changed, and your team manage to even out the score. This moment might bring excitement to you. And in the second half of the game your team lead the game and won the match. This triumph obviously brings a great satisfaction and contentment in your heart.

When you watch the video of the match again, after a few days, you might not experience the same emotional roller-coaster as what you experienced when you were watching the live match. When you see your favourite team was losing earlier in the game, you can respond to it with a big smile on your face. This is because you already knew the outcome of the game. You already have a full assurance that your favourite team will win the match. Likewise, when we able to understand and see the providence of God at work, we are also be able see our misery with a full assurance that there is a purpose for every adversity.

There is a man who lost his daughter in a plane crash. He did respond to this problem of pain as what we normally do. As the time passed, He said “I used to think that time was a healer. I no longer belief that. I now believe that time is only the revealers of how God does the healing”. (Zachariah, R. 2002) Confident in the providence of God will bring us much relief when we want to let go our past. And the assurance of the providence of God can only be found in a close walk with God. God is a relational God and He will understand all of our despair that arises from relational lost.

Cont. to Part 7a

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