Understanding Love, Part 6/7H

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To Love is Means to Lets Go

This part of love allegory is considerably the most painful. When we love someone, sometime, we have to know what its means to let go. The moment we persist to posses the love (person), we will begin to contradict the claim of loving her in unconditional manner.

I have an acquaintance who loves a girl so deeply. Sadly, his persistence was only hurting her instead. He finally realised that his love have been so stained with a possessive desire, instead of to love her unconditionally. Thus, he decided to love her in a right way, and this means he has to let her go.

– Pain of Letting Go–

Letting go of someone that so dear to us is not an easy task to bear. Sometime it can cause aguish to our soul. St. Augustine in his book, “Confessions of St. Augustine”, wrote about how he was drawn into a state of despair when he lost his only friend who was so dear to him. He even equated his relation with his friend as a half of his soul, one soul in two bodies. Without him, he will be utterly incomplete.

Admittedly he mentioned that he focused on a heartfelt despair much more than his affection toward his friend. His self-cantered thought and orientation had dawn him farther into a deep agony. I belief he was hardly out of it.

Whatever the reason, I was wretched. Every soul is wretched that becomes bound in friendship to perishable things. The soul is torn apart when the thing loved is lost. The wretchedness was perhaps always there, masked by the beloved thing that has been stripped away.

So it was then with me; I wept most bitterly, and took solace in resentment. I now understand that I had become so degraded that I held my miserable life more dear than I did my friend. Though I might willingly have changed things in my life, I was more afraid to leave behind my proud ways than I was to part with my friend.

(Augustine, 2005, p. 50)

Cont. to Part 6i

Note: Sorry I published this article late. coz i celebrate my 27th birthday in 10 of October and have to attend to few friends invitation. Cheers.